I don’t know about you, but I am getting sick and tired of reading and watching these “so-called” self-help gurus and life coaches saying that if you quit, you’re a failure. Or that you can only be a failure when you give up or QUIT! Well, that’s not entirely true, nor is it the whole story, and I am getting angry seeing people searching for answers, and these “gurus” haven’t a clue in what to tell them.
The truth is this… If you failed it’s most likely because you were setting yourself up to fail way before you quit. That right now you could be failing in your processes, leading you to failure and not even know it. Let me explain…
If you are doing the same thing over and over again, making the same mistakes, not seeing any results, not improving… Ultimately what is going to happen is that you will wear yourself down from not getting anywhere. And when you get worn down you will end up quitting, and when you quit, you will think of yourself as a failure.
Don’t lie to yourself in thinking (as these “gurus” and coaches will tell you) that just because you are DOING SOMETHING (not quitting) that you are not failing. This is completely false. It is in WHAT you do and HOW you go about executing your processes that will determine whether you succeed or not.
“One does not fail, if one has the right processes in place for success!”
Below are the 4 ways in how you go about your processes that will help you reach your goal. Follow these and you will not quit, nor fail.
Decisive Decision Making
Having the GUTS!
DECISIVE DECISION MAKING…
In my prior blog, “Are You A Decisive Decision Maker?” I go into great detail on what it takes to be a successful decision maker and how to dominate in your arena. What you need to understand is this… You must be able to be both decisive and flexible in your decision making in order to be successful, even when you don’t have all the information at hand. You will never have 100% of the information. And by the time you do, you’ve lost your advantage. You must get comfortable making decisions when you are uncomfortable and be flexible when doing so.
This is simple enough to write, but much harder to practice. You have to recognize your mistakes and when you do, learn from them!! Mistakes are your experiences. You are doing yourself a disservice by not learning from them. You cannot grow if you don’t take advantage of the knowledge gained, no matter how hurtful.
So when you make a mistake, what do you do? Do you sit around feeling bad for yourself? Do you hit the bar and drink it off? Do you blame others? Make excuses? NO! What you do is course correct quickly and appropriately. You keep moving forward. Using every mistake as a lesson learned to help you reach your goal. As I always say, take three steps forward, ‘cause when you do take a step back you will still be two steps ahead!
It’s so easy telling other people what to do. Whether it’s giving out personal or professional advice, we humans have no problem giving our opinion about someone else’s situation. But when it comes to honestly assessing our own situation, we become inept. It’s the same reason why folks hire writers to write their biography. It’s hard to be objective of one’s self. But you have to. You need to step back and look at the entire picture of where you’re going as if you don’t have any investment in the end result. You need to be brutally honest. I talk about this in my “Honest Evaluation” blog along with the steps to take to get past mental hurdles to see things through.
The thing is this… No one has more at stake than you do when it comes to YOU! So you need to learn to step back, be objective and brutally honest with your self and your situation. If you don’t, you will only find it that much harder to reach your goal.
HAVE THE GUTS!
Any time you do something new it takes guts! It doesn’t matter if you are making a meal for dinner, asking someone out on a date, starting a business or jumping out of an airplane… Doing something new has its challenges. You have to face those challenges with an inner conviction that says, “I will!” I will conquer. I will succeed. I will learn. I will adapt. I will not stop. I will face the challenge. I will…. Each success builds confidence. Each mistake is a lesson learned. They are all stepping stones towards greatness if you allow them to be.
FINAL 3 CENTS…
We all fail. We all have quit. We all question are own resolve and determination. But we also succeed. Achieve greatness. Accomplish magnificent things and have gone further than we ever thought we could. The human spirit is truly incredible, and it has no boundaries. That spirit is inside of you!!!
The question is… What do you want to do? Where do you want to go? What challenges are you ready to take on? What legacy do you want to leave behind? Do you have the courage to do what is necessary? Whatever you decide, know this… It is up to you whether or not you fail, not some guru telling you otherwise.
Always be leading!
Bernie Pigott is an expert in leadership, management and media. He helped build a billion dollar company, created high performance teams, and played an integral role in developing two number one news networks, FOX NEWS Channel and FOX NEWS Radio.
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